It’s like I’ve been holding my breath for years and years. After Dad passed (18 years ago!), I stopped writing and I stopped caring about writing.
Strangely, I never felt the desire to pour my grief into words. I simply grieved and continued to live life. It almost felt like an injustice to attempt to pin down with words the tumultuous and chaotic aftermath, the subsequent healing, and then the patient and often joyous living. Even now, my writing mind blocks me. I can see the images, I can see the words on the tip of my brain. But somehow, that time, as rich and full and beautiful and painful as it would be to be shared into words, won’t be shared by me. Maybe one day alluded to, but never documented.
I did subsequently make a three-quarter-assed effort somewhere in between then and now, trying to write stories I thought I wanted to tell but then decided I didn’t care about telling them after all. So I stopped again.
I got married. I had kids. Two very brief sentences that carry an enormous weight. For some, perhaps it means life faded away or just plodded on. For myself, and hopefully many many others, it means there are not enough words to capture the abundance of life and love that consumed me and took the place of ink and paper in my heart. It was just like with Dad. Except this time, I didn’t need to pour my joy into words. I just enjoyed living and loving my family, ever healing, drawing closer to God and being comfortable with a boring, grown-up me.
Still, I never stopped feeling my old love of words tugging at me. I would pick up a blank journal here and there and think about writing. I would run my hands along the spines of books at the library or bookstore and think about reading. I just couldn’t seem, though, to make my mind calm enough to do any of it. I made do by reading with the kids and trying to spark in them my own long-buried flame for literature. It was enough. For nearly two decades, it was enough.
And… now it isn’t. I have been lazy and wasteful with what skill I was given. I have been dismissive of my blessings and my passions. I do not apologize for it. But I have to start putting things in order again. I have to absorb words. I have to create words. No one needs to read them. I just need to spew them out, and not because of any momentous event in life or any desire to make my mark. I’ve simply held them in too long. The words have jumbled and tumbled and faded and melted and there is no clarity. I wasn’t suffocating, but I wasn’t breathing either.
So bear with me as I learn again.
Breath after breath.